Should we compare our pain to others’?

Published 1:03 am Thursday, March 23, 2017

I think it’s a mistake sometimes to not be comparative when it comes to pain. If I’m in physical pain, perhaps it is helpful to remind myself that many others have it worse. Like, it hurts when I walk, but I have my legs; or I have a migraine behind my eyes, but I have my eyes. You understand.

I also think it’s a mistake sometimes to do exactly that. Comparing ourselves, our pain or whatever to anyone else can be dangerous.

I’m better off, worse off. Well, at least I’m not blind or lame like so-and-so. Or, oh, I’m so bad off; they don’t know how good they’ve got it.

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Can we get past all that? It’s a fine line, sure.

We need to accurately assess our own health, and address it accordingly. And we need to have compassion for others without feeling like we are better than or worse than them.

We simply are.

I’m hurting a lot today. But it’s only when I sit, stand or lie down. So, might as well do what I can, what I need to do and as much as I want. If I’m going to hurt pretty much the same regardless, why not?

What’s been good about the day so far?

I saw my son off to school again. I’m proud of his hard work and passion that he pours into his chosen degree and profession.

I got to see a friend from Mexico and my wife took a photo of us, an arm around each other and goofy grins. He lives here and I see him fairly often, but I love this guy.

I had one of my favorite desserts with lunch — blackberry cobbler topped with vanilla bean ice cream. The sweet and tart mix so well.

For the first time in awhile, my wife, oldest daughter and I got to sit and watch a favorite TV show together.

And God spoke to my spirit in such a clear way today that He’s not given up on me. I’m grateful for those reminders, always just when I need them.

So, what do I do with my pain? I’ll take some pain medication so I can sleep tonight, and I ask God to heal me or help me endure, either, or, both. I’ll treat the problem, and not just the symptoms.

For pain that’s not physical I ask for healing, and read God’s Word. I’ll treat the problem, not just the symptoms.

People around you may be in pain, even if they don’t let it show. I try to hide mine.

Be the good neighbor you want to have.

I hope you spent time with God and loved ones today. If not, there’s still time.

News editor Brett Campbell can be reached at or 601-265-5307.