Thanks to all the moms who’ve been there for me
Published 4:11 pm Friday, May 8, 2020
This weekend is Mother’s Day. So many mothers have played important roles in my life.
The most significant is, of course, my own mother — Sarah “Grammar” Campbell. I’ve written several times about how blessed I am to have had such strong godly influences in my home growing up, and still to this day.
Other mothers who have greatly impacted my life are my grandmothers, “Grandmother” Edith Sanders and “Nanny” Geneva Powell; my former mother-in-law, Jan Moore; my first wife and the mother of four of my children, Debbie Hubbard; and my current/second/last wife (and mother of my fifth child) Donna Campbell. Without these women, my life would have been drastically different.
I was not always obedient to my mother or my grandmothers — or to my wives, either, for that matter — but they loved me, nonetheless.
My energy, inability to focus for long periods of time, messy creativity, odd sense of humor and preference for loud heavy music has pushed each of them to the edge of insanity, I’m sure.
Other mothers have made an impact on me, too — those who were my teachers, friends, extended family, church family, etc.
And now with one son married and four of the five in adulthood, I am faced with the reality that one day, each of my children may be parents themselves. Each of my four daughters (daughter-in-law counts) may become a mother one day.
I’m OK with waiting, trust me, even though the idea of a grand-young’un sounds really awesome.
Will they be good mothers? I hope so. I think they will. They’ve each had good examples and each of them is a loving person. And if they are blessed to become mothers, each of them will likely have the same reaction most young parents have when holding their child — “What was I thinking?”
The “weight” of parenthood can fall hard on the shoulders of someone who suddenly realizes he or she is responsible for the well-being and upbringing of a tiny human — their tiny human. But, thankfully, reassurance and assistance can often be found only a phone call or visit away.
Even for those whose mothers have passed away, or who weren’t in the picture or weren’t good examples … even these women can find hope and help in the other mothers who surround them.
Churches, hospitals, crisis centers, friendly neighbors and co-workers can all be a helping hand if those in need reach out and let them know they need help. If it’s financial, emotional, practical tips, medical, whatever … hope and help are available.
I look forward to the day my children are calling their mom or me to ask questions about raising their children — or even to tell us to back off a bit and let them do their jobs as parents. Not one of my children should ever have to worry about or wonder if we are there for them.
No other mother should ever have to worry or wonder, either. If you are a mother who needs help, reach out to someone. And tell the mothers who have influenced you that you love them and appreciate them.
God knows I do.
Brett Campbell can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.